Bereavement Connections

Is there a right way to offer support to those who are grieving?  Whether you are currently supporting someone through loss or not, it's not unusual to find yourself in the middle of not-so-comfortable grief cnversation, especially when you feel unprepared.  If a conversation feels potentially insensitive, or untimely, what can you do?

The American Cancer Society gives this counsel:

You don't need to have answers or give advice.  Simply achnowledge the situation.  Example: "I heard that your ____ died." Use the word "died."  That will show that you are more open to talk about how the person really feels.

Express your concern and offer your support.  Example: "Tell me what I can do for you."  Ask how he or she feels, and don't assume you know how the bereaved person feels on any given day.

Listen with compassion.  Accept and acknowledge all feelings.  Offer comfort and reassurance without minimizing the loss and be willing to sit in silence.